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Thursday, November 13, 2014

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love is quantifiable. 
you can place a number 
on your love.
scale it 
from one to 100.
but everyone has different values;
yours is 12, 
mine is 98.
true love 
is when you find someone,
and their number is the same


xoxo darlings,
Clementine


New School Drama

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

FX / Via deliriousnight.tumblr.com
With my birthday and the closing chapter of another year on the horizon, this past week has been one of major reflection on my maturity and the things that I have learned in the year.

While I'm utterly thankful for the positive situations that have given me wisdom, I have to give equal tribute to those that weren't so nice.

The biggest thing that I've learned is that drama doesn't stop in high school...or, sadly, even college. Drama never stops and oftentimes the people that cause it are the ones that you have the most hope for.

I know that there are some people who have had the utter pleasure of going through life drama free, and I applaud those people for magically keeping themselves out of it.

Unfortunately, one of the only ways to learn from drama is to be involved in it. Because of this, I wish that I knew absolutely nothing about the subject...as do probably all people who have been a part of it in any way.

Drama comes in all shapes and forms; sometimes it doesn't really affect you and other times you are thrust into the thick of it. You can cause it yourself or someone else can cause it for you. I have, admittedly, been in the middle of both of those scenarios, but as I've aged it has mostly turned into the latter.

The thing that differentiates the two is that when you create it yourself you can--with a little bit of embarrassment--come clean and fix the situation yourself. The latter, however, is the most difficult to "clean" yourself of, as someone else has tarnished your name in hopes of saving their own ass. 

What drama and its existence has taught me is that when you see the very first sign of a person who causes it, you distance yourself far, far, far away from them and wish them the best. There really isn't anything else that you can do, some people just choose that life for themselves and unless you want more drama it isn't your place to try to stop them.

My own personal goal is to keep my life as drama-free as possible in this upcoming year, and you should too.

xoxo darlings,
Clementine

The Culmination of Year 21

Monday, November 3, 2014


In just six days I will celebrate the 21st anniversary of my birth, and with that rather large commemoration of life comes a time to reflect on the wisdom accrued since my last revolution around the sun.

Just before the my last womb-liberation day I entered into a relationship that would ultimately teach me more about human nature and my own self than any other experience or inter-personal relation ever would. I discovered my own strengths--and admittedly, weaknesses--and realized that I was allowing others to depict how I should view myself.

That relationship ended in a predictably sad way, with me alone and my then-partner settled happily amongst a harem of internet consorts. But hey, when you learn a good lesson you can't hate the teacher.

This year I have begun the long journey into learning what emotion is...and how to have it. For such a long time I expended my energy on feigning happiness for everyone that I forgot that sadness, anger, and "bleh" existed. So now, I focus on allowing myself to emote, to cry when I need to and stand up for myself when I need to.

My family has been increasingly more supportive of all of my decisions, and through some magical twist of fate we all actually get along now. I'm glad that I chose you guys.

The best part of this year has been the most recent. In the last few months I have somehow fallen into the most incredible group of human beings. These people have become my friends....something I haven't really had in a long time.

They merit the most amazing praise and I cannot be thankful enough for their existence.

Maury, Jared, Caroline, Kate, Nick, Scott and Chad (yes, even you, buddy): Thank you. Thank you for being a part of my life.

Six days. I have just six more days of this portion of my life. I'm ready to close this chapter and begin a new one with the beautiful people that I have chosen to share myself with.

Twenty, you've been cool, but it's time for me to move forward.

xoxo darlings,
Clementine



Bound.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014


you are bound to me
by tiny threads
strung from each appendage;
they will not break
for they are diamond strong. 
take the breath from my lips,
twist my fantasies
into a void, an abyss.
laugh when my heart
slams violently in my chest
we are bound forever,
though I want nothing
more than to break free. 
let me go,
even if not by untangling 
my soul from these tethers,
but by giving me slack
on the tightly bound ropes. 
we are both aware that
one cannot exist
without the other,
but even death is
not a great distance,
when your souls are
entwined, bound, fused.
even betrayal, loss of trust
cannot break these
manacles, shackles, handcuffs.
even the sweetest,
most sorrowful goodbye
could not free me.
so again I beg,
if we cannot sever
these painful ties
please, oh please
allow me enough room
to run, to fly, to soar
as I did before I
fell wholly and fully 
into your quicksand,
laced with hooks that would sink
deeply into my flesh,
my heart, and my soul.



xoxo darlings,
Clementine

New York, New York, one helluva town.

Saturday, August 16, 2014

"Taxi" by Xavier Gonzalo Pons/Flickr Profile xaviergp
Over time we all accumulate funny, strange and sometimes over the top anecdotes, so I wanted to share one of my best with all of you.

Late last summer I was living in New Jersey and had gone out to Brooklyn with a few friends, we spent a fun night bar hopping and just enjoying each others company before heading back to our friend Dean's* apartment.

Inevitably someone had forgotten to eat dinner and couldn't stomach what he had consumed, needless to say, rendering the apartment unfit for inhabitance. So, while he cleaned up his mess and attempted to air out the apartment, the rest of us went on a walk.

When we returned, a flashily dressed, twig-thin man was arguing with a cabby on the corner of our block. 

"You had me drive you all the way across the bridge, and didn't have the money?"

"Look, I just need to run upstairs into my apartment and get the cash, calm down."

Then it got physical, and the cabby grabbed the man's arm and started yelling in his face that he needed to produce the cash now. Chivalrous as he is, Dean got involved and--though he had never seen this guy before--vouched for the flashy guy as he ran up to his apartment to get some money.

A few minutes later, just as we were all beginning to think that we would have to pool our money to pay off this cabby, the guy swung out of his building's door and thrust the cash into the cabby's hand.

As soon as the yellow Honda CR-V drove off, the man turned to us and huffed, thanking Dean for being so sweet as to garner him a moment to run upstairs for money.

We all smiled politely and waited for the man to run back into his nearby building, but as he was walking away, he turned and said "I have to repay you somehow, come up to my place."

The three of us knew it was a stupid idea, but decided to go anyway, how much harm could this waif of a man do anyway? 

I know, I know, we were dumb..

When we got through the door of his three-story walk up, nothing could have prepared us for the shrines to Pat Benatar, Liza Minelli and Madonna. Although, I guess we all did sort of assume that his apartment would look like this.

He told us about his glamorous career as a stylist and showed off his collection of heels for the "rare" times he did drag. 

The looks exchanged between the three of us spoke volumes of how enthralled, creeped out, amused and skeptical that we all were. 

But once he threw "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" on his boombox, yes boombox, and offered us some freebies from his extensive weed collection, we decided it was time to get out.

None of us spoke a word until we got back to Dean's apartment--which thankfully no longer smelled like puke--and then we delved into retelling this tale to our friend that we had left behind. 

None of us ever saw him again, none of us ever spoke of the event again, but it is ingrained in my memory as one of the most fascinating experiences I have ever had in New York. 

I hope you enjoyed.

xoxo darlings,
Clementine


*name has been changed...mostly because his real name didn't look right.

Above & Beyond

Saturday, August 2, 2014


One of my favorite love songs says that "if you don't play, you'll never win." 
Yet in my eyes, there is no way to lose in love.

The problems don't matter in the end, and even if you're bitter in the beginning, at some point you realize that this person's companionship in your life was necessary. That human being taught you lessons that you otherwise never would have been able to learn.

Although they may not have overlooked all of your flaws, if their love was true, they loved you despite those flaws and not with disdain towards them.

When I close my eyes, I can think of special moments with each of the select couple of people that I have truly loved. Those moments may be unhappy or some of the most joyous occasions I've experienced, yet in one way or another, the snippets of time were things that I keep tucked away in my heart and soul to remember if I doubt myself.

One person in particular stole all of the love I had, and burrowed their own love deep within me. I can truly say that they taught me more in our time together than anyone has ever shown me in my life.

What I learned from this person is simple: sometimes you just can't get over someone. 

That's not to say that you won't be with other people, or that you won't move on and love again. It's just that there is that one being that touches your soul in such a way that you are never the same. There is no way to "get over" them, simply because there is no way to be the same person that you were before they entered your universe.

So thank you. Thank you for showing me that I could be better, that I am strong even when I am alone, that no situation is too large for me to handle and that I can love even after all that I have fought through.

Just ... Thank you.

xoxo my darling,

Clementine



To Judge = To Assess ≈ To Be Asses

Tuesday, July 29, 2014


This is going to be very opinionated. If you prefer to live in blissful ignorance of other viewpoints, kindly exit the page now; transversely, if you enjoy debate, let me know how you feel in the comments below this post.

Today I was casually browsing YouTube, watching videos of the channels that I am subscribed to and I stumbled upon a comment that really ground my gears. 

In this video, the YouTube content creator was giving options for a back-to-school makeup and outfit look, and given the fact that she was raving about/almost exclusively using CoverGirl products, one can assume that it was sponsored. I have absolutely no problem with this, however, it appeared that most of her other followers deemed this reason enough to give the poor girl loads of grief.

As someone who works in a field that derivates from the Internet, I'm well aware that getting corporate sponsorships is a pretty big feat, and usually means that these companies think that you have a wide enough -- and loyal enough -- audience reach to promote their products. With a platform like YouTube, where the content creator (if partnered with YouTube) earns just cents on each view, that can be a great addition to their income. 

Besides, this girl started out doing videos just so that she could share her ideas and views with a broader audience, right? The fact that she is successful enough to even have sponsorship is because of the viewers. The very people who were throwing her under the proverbial bus, just for using one particular line of makeup in a video.

The comments ranged from people complaining that it wasn't her "true view" on the products, since she was being paid to calling her "stupid" and a "sellout." This girl, who is just a few years my senior, is building herself a firm financial foundation for her future, and in my opinion is an entrepreneur. 

Responses like this are not rare, and can be found on videos and posts of many of the most popular makeup artists, gamers, vloggers, comedians and bloggers on the internet. 

Look at Michelle Phan. Seven years on YouTube, a makeup line, millions of fans and fantastic success later, and she is still getting hit left and right for her choices and the message that she puts across. The lawsuit with Ultra Records notwithstanding. 

What about Bethany Mota? This girl is three years my junior and her net worth is probably thousands of times bigger than mine -- if not more. She liked clothes and DIY projects and landed herself a clothing line with one of her favorite stores.

Yet on each of these channels, you can see people commenting and saying that they are sellouts, their personal branding has changed or that they are no longer as "down to earth."But is this really our place to comment? The short answer is: no.

These people put themselves out there -- knowing the risks of humiliation and failure -- and still produce consistent content that, like it or not, we take time out of our day to enjoy. 

To publicly shame and judge just reflects the sadness that one must have with their own lives. Believe it or not, somehow we will all be successful in our own little stratosphere, but trying to bring others down because they are furthering their own lives is not the way to do it.

Enjoy that they take the time out of their own days to try to make our days a little bit brighter; it isn't your place to judge how they do it.

xoxo darlings,

Clementine
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